“Oh no, I could never be caught buying that kind of stuff!”
“What would your family, friends, or significant other say if they found out you used those toys for sexual desires?”
“That’s a disgrace to the church if you masturbate.”
“Doesn’t your significant other feel less or like they can’t live up to one of those and their performance?”
These are some of the every day questions I get from a lot of women, men, and really people/customers in general. Now everyone has their own opinions, but I do this stuff for a living and you would be surprised by the amount of people that enjoy these things behind closed doors. Sex is something that never goes out of style, but it’s the least amount of conversation to be brought up amongst a group of people. Why? Yes I agree that some things should be kept personal when you are sharing a relationship with someone, but I don’t solemnly agree that we should ban sexual topics and conversations either.
If you look above, I posted a chart with a few different statistics. This chart was made at the beginning of the year. It states that 44% of women between the ages of 18-60 have used “sex” toys AKA vibrators. I will honestly tell you that I own 2 of them. Here’s why; Women start to explore their bodies at some point in their life. YOU as a woman knows what works for you and where all the best spots are. It is our job as women to take control of a situation and make the best of it, and that includes sex. It makes me feel confident. Most women need DIRECT clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm, and most the time sexual intercourse just isn’t enough. Yes it’s pleasurable, but 80% of women need direct clitoral stimulation to achieve that mind blowing orgasm they long for! Men can’t do all the work, girl! Think of it this way, when you orgasm it releases endorphins that make you FEEL GOOD! I feel GOOD when I get a new purse, or lipstick and I also feel GOOD when I orgasm. It’s self care.
23% of adults use sex toys during intercourse. Yes, you heard that correctly. TOGETHER! Couples and even my single and mingling people use sex toys to reach orgasm! For some people, you are probably thinking “Oh that’s awkward, I don’t need to, my partner knows all the right moves.” “Oh no my partner isn’t gonna like that because it’s going to make him or her feel less.” And it just might! But don’t knock it till you try it! Just think about it for a moment. Wouldn’t it be complete nirvana to reach orgasm at the same time or not very close in time with your partner? They create so many toys that can be used with a partner! That’s going to create pleasure on both ends. Plus that involves exploration on both ends and keeps things interesting in the bedroom!
People spend 15.2 billion on sex toys a year. So those people that say they are against it, might just be the ones that are doing it behind closed doors. You shouldn’t be ashamed of it! Like I said, sex never goes out of style. I don’t ever want to mock someone for trying it, or for not trying it. Everyone has their own quirks and if it isn’t your thing, then it just isn’t. All this blog is about, is trying to get others to open their eyes about the unspoken topic that we all love and crave so much!
I work for a company named Pure Romance that is all about educating and empowering women in sexual health. We also try to educate and empower men, but we specialize in women! This is all coming from my own personal standpoint and opinion. I am not a sexual health expert or a doctor. I wrote this solely based on statistics and my own opinions!